Everyone has moments of fear during their life – whether it is fear of speaking in front of others or fear of spiders! Fear affects all of us; however, it is important that we don’t allow fear to dictate the decisions we make (or don’t make) in our lives.
Is fear preventing you from achieving what you want in your life?
If so, take a look at these three simple steps that you can take to overcome your fears:
The things we fear are often not as bad as we thought they would be, which is why it is important to face your fear. Robert Edelmann, a professor of forensic and clinical psychology, says: ‘The first part to approach the thing you’re afraid of. Think in terms of graded exposure: start off with something you think you might be able to manage on a good day. Then you can increase the difficulty.’
When we fear something, our heart rate increases and it can provoke sweating and shaking. One way to control this is through ‘progressive muscular relaxation’, says Edelmann. Focus on various muscle groups, tensing and relaxing each muscle by breathing slowly. This will help to maintain bodily control.
When people become anxious they tend to react with stressful thoughts like ‘How am I going to cope?’ Recognise your thought pattern and talk yourself through the situation with positive phrases and words – ‘I can manage this’, etc. Talking to yourself is not a weird thing to do; it’s a sign that you are ‘doing something to help yourself’, says Edelmann.
Have you been finding it hard to overcome your fears? Do you feel as though fear has been causing you to miss out on opportunities?
Every Friday, we hold meetings which use faith and prayer to help you deal with your problem effectively and move forward in your life. These meetings will leave you with a new positive outlook on life. If you would like more information, please call our 24-hr helpline on 020 7686 6000.