How does a person who fails in school end up going to university? How do they become so calm when they were once aggressive and filled with hatred? Read on and find out how Omolade Okaiyeto was able to turn her worst nightmare of a life into heaven on earth!
Universal: Omolade, tell us how it was while growing up?
Omolade: I can’t complain about how I was brought up. My parents have always provided the best for my siblings and me. They taught us good morals and to always respect our elders, but as I became a teenager, I threw all of those morals in the bin.
Universal: Why the sudden change?
Omolade: I couldn’t stand my mother always being on my case. I would shout, scream, slam the door and completely lash out, and when I was grounded for my behaviour, I only hated her more. Unfortunately, this hatred turned into a deep grudge and as each day went by, we only continued to argue every day.
Universal: How did you behave in school?
Omolade: At school, I was just a “rude girl”, but on the inside I was filled with so much hatred. This is because I had a skin condition called eczema on the most part of my body, and I hated myself because of it. I felt like an ugly duckling, and with the constant media pressure to look a certain way, which I couldn’t, I was very envious of other girls.
My grades were an embarrassment; I was failing and could never get the high grade I wanted. It was so hard concentrating on my studies when I did not understand why I was failing.
Universal: Did you ever try to find help?
Omolade: I genuinely thought that everything was okay; that everyone has problems, so these were mine and I had to deal with them. However, I did imagine my life being different and hoped for it, but at that time it didn’t seem like such a big thing.
Universal: How did your change begin? We also heard that you graduated from university; how did that happen if you were failing?
Omolade: A friend invited to me to the Victory Youth Group (VYG), which is the UCKG’s youth ministry, and at first glance I was shocked at how many young people were there. I attended one of their meetings and the message hit the nail on the head for me. I couldn’t help but see that these people were willing to invest so much in me, and they didn’t even know who I was. I continued to attend the VYG and later took part in the main meetings of the HelpCentre on Wednesdays, Fridays and Sundays. They became my tools in helping me to become a new woman.
It wasn’t easy to change! I had to let go of the hatred, grudges and jealousy I had towards family and friends, and forgive and move on. It was a process I had to be patient with and committed to.
Before I went to school, I would anoint myself with the holy oil and determine that I would be able to concentrate and do well in my studies.
Little by little, I understood what the teacher taught. I no longer felt completely lost.
But everything went from good to great when I participated in the Campaign of Israel. All I focused on was on becoming a better ‘me’ and the old and angry Omolade faded away. She doesn’t exist anymore! In fact, my life has never been the same after that.
Universal: What is the reason for your smile today?
Omolade: I am seeing the fruit of my faith! In my studies, although my final year of university was the hardest, I finished with a 2:1 degree in BA Communication and Media. For someone who couldn’t even get an A grade in school, both my family and I were over the moon.
I now have a graduate job earning more than I imagined I would. Through consistent attendance in the Monday meetings, I was inspired to start my own business in African fashion, helping people with outfit designs and consultations. With the salary I was getting, I was able to buy my own Mini Cooper and have the freedom to travel many different countries.
My skin is all clear and I no longer have complexes about myself or wish to be like anyone else.
Universal: If you had to give someone a piece of advice, what would it be?
Omolade: I would encourage everyone to work on their inner self first and get rid of the hurt, pain and troubles of the past. It’s not easy, but as you take part in faith-motivated purposes at the HelpCentre, your change is inevitable. You will be able to look in the mirror and be proud of what you see looking back at you.