Today, we love each other profoundly
My husband and I didn’t have the chance to get to know each other before our wedding, which made our relationship frustrating, to say the least. But, asking for advice was the key to discovering that arranged marriages can work. When we applied it, we learned how to love each other profoundly.
Vani and Jay Chinapyel
In 1995, I found out that I had acute circulatory failure (shock). I was frustrated and at an all-time low. I felt physically and emotionally drained. Having the UCKG by my side throughout my treatment was invaluable. They helped me keep my spirits up and understand that being ill doesn’t mean that my life has to stop. Since then, I’ve been able to live out my career dreams, start my own business and get married. I’m not a millionaire, but I am happy and not many people can say that.
After two failed marriages, a drug stint and a broken family, I couldn’t imagine life any other way than the mundane routine it had become. On the outside, I was the life and soul of any party, but I was bitter and couldn’t understand why it had dealt me such a bad hand. I felt depressed and worthless, but I didn’t want to be this way. I wanted more for myself and for my daughter, and the HelpCentre helped me figure out how to do that. I’d been let down so many times before that I struggled to trust people, but they never gave up on me. Little by little I spoke, and in time things changed. The UCKG helped me find myself again when I felt lost.
“My drinking put a strain on my family. The final straw came when Leah (my fiancée at the time) discovered my womanising and kicked me out! I couldn’t let my 12-year relationship go down the drain, but there was something holding me back from showing the love I had towards my family. This is where the UCKG came in. They helped me get to the root of why I dealt with things the way I did and gave me practical steps to change. I now know how to be the best father for my kids and husband to my wife.
Nixon de Abreu
“I remember how lost I felt when I came home to find my now ex-husband surrounded by suitcases. “I just don’t love you anymore,” he said. Those words haunted me for years. The day I decided to face the ugliness of the situation was the key to dealing with being a divorcee at such a young age. The HelpCentre gave me support and time to heal and I learnt to love myself again. I enjoyed being young, free and single. But today, I’m not only a new woman, but I’m a happily married one.”
Overcoming the cravings
“I didn’t even realise how addicted I was. Ecstasy, acid, cocaine, and crack – you name it, I had tried it. The penny dropped when my mum passed away. The night after her death, I was completely out of my head. The low that followed left me feeling depressed. I was referred to counselling, rehab and was taking antidepressants. But I still felt powerless to stop. That’s where the UCKG stepped in. They kept me going when I felt like giving up. Today, I’m a qualified engineer and I want people to know that there is help!