The Blame Game

Nobody’s perfect, people make mistakes and we can all agree to that. Sometimes we even give people a pass because of it, but why is it that when it comes to relationships between a couple, it isn’t so easy to let bygones be bygones?

Faults and misunderstandings are not the problem in a relationship, but it’s the inability to know how to deal with them that puts the bond and trust between two people in the danger zone.

So, what are the pitfalls and how can you avoid making common classic mistakes when it comes to conflict resolution? It’s said that “a wise person learns from his mistakes. A wiser one learns from others’ mistakes.” Let’s be wise and pick up key lessons from the very first couple to have ever existed – Adam and Eve.

There are countless lessons that we can take from the relationship between the first Man and Woman, one of which is a critical mistake that still cripples relationships today! And that is to play the blame game.

You may be familiar with, ‘the woman made me do it, the serpent made me do it’ dialogue that ensued after the two ate the forbidden fruit (see Genesis 3:12,13).

Neither wanted to take responsibility for the mistake they had both committed. Doesn’t this sound familiar? How many people do you know who behave in the exact same way in their relationships?

This stubborn ‘defend yourself at any cost stance’ blinds a couple to the fact that they are only hurting one another further. When one or both parties don’t want to admit that they are in the wrong, the relationship cannot flourish.

Admitting that you are wrong is hard, but digging your heels in and trying to cover your mistakes through blame is harder! It’s like trying to cover your nakedness with a tiny fig leaf – it’s not going to work, and you’ll only end up feeling awkward and horrible in the end. It is only through the sacrifice of one’s ego and humility that a couple can move forward. If both parties learn to stop blaming each other and acknowledge their faults, this will make being in a relationship much smoother.

So, why not learn from Adam and Eve’s grave mistake to avoid making the same mistakes in your relationship? Join us for the Love Therapy seminar, as we continue extracting valuable lessons for your love life in the new series: Couples from Genesis.

Meeting: Couples from Genesis series at the Love Therapy seminar
Day and time: Thursday at 8pm
Location: Rainbow Theatre, 232 Seven Sisters Road, N4 3NX.
More info: Call or WhatsApp 020 7686 6000