Looking for love in all the wrong places

I learned how to express myself, I stopped being proud,

‘Although my dad passed away when I was nine, the reality of his death didn’t truly hit me until I was 13 years old. It’s as if one day, I was hit with the fact that I would never see my dad again.

To fill the huge void I felt inside, I got into relationships at a young age. In my early teens, I already had a boyfriend and had this fantasy in my head that he would care for me and be there for me no matter what. How wrong I was! Instead of love, he just added to the heartache that I already felt.’

Celia went from one relationship to another but could never seem to find happiness. Two years ago, Celia’s brother invited her to the UCKG HelpCentre; at first, she was a bit wary of coming, as she had grown up in a church-going family but was sure they couldn’t help her.

‘In my eyes, I’d heard it all before. I was extremely proud. I knew I needed God to intervene and help me, but I still wanted to do things my own way. I was hurt; I felt let down, disappointed, and angry.

Eventually, I realised that I needed to open up. Holding on to all my anger was only hurting me more. So, I spoke to a spiritual advisor at the UCKG and this made me feel like I wasn’t alone. But what really lifted off the invisible heavy load I felt inside was knowing how to talk to God. I learned how to express myself to Him and this was such a massive step towards the change I longed for.’

 

“I HAVE GIVEN MY LOVE LIFE INTO THE HANDS OF GOD,
AND I KNOW GOD WILL HONOUR ME”

 

With each word she spoke, Celia saw her pride breaking and the heart finally beginning to heal.

‘This is how I began to change. I stopped being proud and acting like I knew it all; instead, I came to God sincerely.

I now value myself, and I won’t devalue myself by just talking to anyone or investing myself into someone who is not right. I have given my love life into the hands of God, and I know I will meet someone soon.

A piece of advice I was given is to not be so anxious about my love life. First I must seek my own happiness and then, through the power of faith, I will receive what I need.

Nowadays, Celia is a completely different person: ‘I’m now at peace; I can confidently say that I’m happy and have self-value, but, most of all, the void inside has been filled, not with the world but with God’.

Celia Okoli

Do you also need direction for your love life? At 8pm every Thursday at the Rainbow Theatre, we have the Love Therapy, a seminar focused on success in love.