A person’s marriage may be troubled, but that doesn’t mean marriage itself is the problem.
The story of Elisha reminds us of this truth:
“Then he went out to the source of the water, and cast in the salt there, and said, ‘Thus says the Lord: I have healed this water; from it there shall be no more death or barrenness.’ So the water remains healed to this day, according to the word of Elisha which he spoke.” (2 Kings 2:21–22)
The water was always meant to give life, but it needed healing at its source. Isn’t that what is happening in relationships? Many couples love each other, but somewhere along the way, a “but” sneaks in. “I love my spouse, but…” It might be a small thing, but if it’s left unresolved, it becomes a huge problem.
This was the focus of the recent Love Therapy meeting at the Cathedral of Miracles, led by Bishop James Marques and his wife, Helena. Together, they shared six practical lessons that can help transform any relationship.
Many wait until their marriage is in crisis before taking action. But prevention is better than cure. If your spouse highlights something you need to improve, don’t ignore it. Change isn’t about what’s convenient for you, but what strengthens the relationship. Just as technology keeps advancing, couples should keep growing.
Your spouse is not supposed to be a copy of you. Differences bring balance. Where one is calm, the other may be energetic; where one is practical, the other may be more creative. Instead of resenting those differences, embrace them – they make you stronger together.
A stone in your shoe is small, but it can bring a journey to a halt. Minor issues in marriage, if brushed aside, can cause great damage in the future. Something tiny to you may feel big to your partner – so listen, talk, and resolve it before it escalates.
Many wives complain that their husbands don’t give them the same attention they give to work. Work is important, but it should never come before God and your wife. Success means nothing if your marriage is neglected. Show your spouse, through time and attention, that she is more valuable than any promotion or pay rise.
Where communication is lacking, distance grows. The “silent treatment”, heavy atmospheres, and unspoken frustrations only make things worse. Marriage means sharing your life and that includes conversation.
Lies, even small ones, weaken your relationship. Half-truths are no better. If your words are guided by God, then let them be truthful. Your spouse will feel safe, secure, and fully able to trust you.
Just as Elisha used salt to heal the waters, couples today need to bring flavour back into their love lives. Singles, too, can begin practising these principles, so that their future relationship starts on a solid foundation.
Join us for the Love Therapy Seminar this Thursday, 18th September for ‘The Night of the Salt Alliance.’ Couples and singles will receive a portion of blessed salt, a symbol to bring flavour into your love life.
No matter your relationship status, the invitation is open to all. Come, learn and experience the transformation that love, when nurtured God’s way, can bring.
Event: The Love Therapy Seminar – The Night of the Salt Alliance
Day and time: Thursday, 18th September at 8pm
Location: The Cathedral of Miracles, Rainbow Theatre, 232 Seven Sisters Road, Finsbury Park, London, N4 3NX (outside London via conference)
