Marriage isn’t exactly at the top of everyone’s to-do list these days. More and more people are choosing to remain single. But why? What’s changed?
One reason is that marriage requires surrender—and surrender isn’t a word we like to hear, especially in a world that constantly tells us to be independent, self-sufficient, and to always put ourselves first. If someone has built a life around doing things their own way, sharing that life can feel like losing control—or worse, oppression. Marriage is a mirror. It reflects who you really are, and sometimes, what you see reflected back isn’t always flattering and many people do not want to change.
One of the greatest problems in relationships often comes down to one thing: your will. When both individuals insist on doing things their own way, it becomes a tug-of-war, not a partnership. The older we get, the more set in our ways we become, and the harder it is to adapt. But a successful relationship requires give and take. You can’t go into it thinking, “My way or the highway.”
Your will can be incredibly destructive. It whispers, “You don’t need to change. They’re the problem.” But that kind of thinking turns small issues into big ones. A relationship can’t thrive unless both people are willing to compromise and sometimes admit, “Maybe I got it wrong.”
Being single is a great time to figure out who you are and what you want. But here’s something most people don’t do: ask God for guidance in choosing a partner. It’s tempting to rely on emotions—the butterflies, the excitement, but love based purely on feelings won’t last.
Faith, trust, and obedience might not sound romantic, but they lay the foundation for something far deeper and more lasting. When we give up our will, we trust that God has a plan for our love lives.
God has someone suitable for you, someone who will help you grow. But He also knows that for the relationship to succeed, you have to be willing to let go of your own will and hand Him the reins.
It doesn’t matter how your love life has been up until now. God can write a brand-new story for you. But it starts with a decision: are you willing to let go of your will and trust His?
Maybe you have been planting the wrong seeds in love and probably already felt the consequences. But here’s the good news: you can start again. Let Him take the lead.
When you do, you’ll find peace. You’ll realise that what God wants for you isn’t just good—it’s the best.
This Thursday 24th July, we invite you to Join us for the Love Therapy Seminars. Bring a notebook with youand write down, on the first few pages, how your love life has been so far. Every week we will pray in faith, and we will trust that God will write a new story in your love life. When He does, you will fill the rest of the notebook with your new story—one that glorifies Him.
Your love story isn’t over. In fact, the best chapters may be just about to begin.
Event: The Love Therapy Seminars
Day and time: Every Thursday at 8pm
Location: The Cathedral of Miracles, Rainbow Theatre, 232 Seven Sisters Road, Finsbury Park, London, N4 3NX (outside London via conference)
