Many people experience pain in love because they act without thinking. There are two kinds of love: one that thinks, and one that simply feels. Unintelligent love is driven by need, emotion, and impulse. It comes from someone who doesn’t reflect or pay attention to warning signs.
In contrast, intelligent love is guided by reason, faith, and commitment. It is rational, intentional, and based on principles. While it doesn’t disregard feelings, it doesn’t surrender to them blindly either.
It’s important to understand that feelings alone cannot sustain a relationship. “If you say you love someone but ignore how they feel or what they ask of you, then that love is not genuine. True love means valuing what is important to the other person. Many times, people claim to love but fail to demonstrate it through their actions.” Some say, ‘Oh, but I love in my own way.’ That’s not love. True love considers, listens, responds — that’s loving with intelligence.
Did you know that God left us a model of love? His love isn’t based on emotion. It is demonstrated through action. He gave His Son, He gives us His Word, and He corrects and guides us. Likewise, He expects the same from those who love Him.
This is clearly highlighted in the Bible: “He who has My commandments and keeps them, it is he who loves Me…” (John 14:21). The love that pleases God is shown through obedience and this same principle applies to our relationships.
Sometimes, the other person just wants to be heard and respected. When that is consistently ignored, the relationship begins to deteriorate. Love can’t just be something you feel. It must be something you do.
True love needs to be learned and practised. It’s not automatic, nor does it happen by chance. Therefore, those who wish to be happy in love — whether single or married — must be willing to act intelligently, consider the other person, and learn to love in a biblical and conscious way.
Event: The Love Therapy Seminars
Day and time: Every Thursday at 8pm
Location: The Cathedral of Miracles, Rainbow Theatre, 232 Seven Sisters Road, Finsbury Park, London, N4 3NX (outside London via conference)
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