So, what is the single person’s greatest enemy?
You might think the greatest challenge for single people is loneliness or perhaps insecurity. However, the greatest enemy of single people is time. Not because time is inherently bad, quite the opposite. It’s how we use time, or rather fail to use it wisely, that becomes the problem. This was the topic discussed in last week’s Love Therapy seminar, led by Pastor Peter Petrucci and his wife, Andreia.
When we are young, we often tell ourselves, “I still have time,” there’s always tomorrow. Then, tomorrow becomes next week, next year, until one day, we look around and realise that time has not been standing still. Friends are getting married; people are settling down, and suddenly we’re no longer saying “I still have time” anymore but rather “I’ve run out of time”. Panic sets in and we try to do in months what really needs years of investment and growth and that’s where time becomes the enemy.
Many singles fall into the trap of procrastinating when it comes to finding love. They keep pushing it down the priority list. “Once I finish uni.” “After I’ve built my career.” “When I’ve travelled a bit more.” Meanwhile, time is passing and habits set in.
When you are single, it’s easy to get comfortable with doing everything your own way. There is no one to consult or to compromise with. The longer that goes on, the harder it becomes to let someone in. Suddenly, relationships feel like a threat to your independence rather than a blessing. You meet someone and think “They don’t understand me” or “They’re too controlling”, but really, it’s just that you are no longer used to sharing your life.
We then become experts at finding excuses: “No one’s right for me”, “I’m focusing on myself”, “God will send the right one when the time is right.” But the truth? A lot of us are not taking action. We say we want a relationship, but will not make the time to go to a singles’ event, attend Love Therapy, or work on the parts of ourselves that still need healing. If you had a broken foot, you wouldn’t sit at home waiting for it to heal, you would seek help. So why treat your love life any differently?
Time doesn’t have to work against you – It can work for you, if you’re intentional.
You can either use time to build something great, or let it pass you by. Those who wait around, thinking that time alone will bring the right person into their life, are often left disappointed. Faith and action are what make time fruitful.
Join us for the Love Therapy every Thursday at the Rainbow Theatre in Finsbury Park, London. These seminars are aimed for those who want to learn to love intelligently, overcome past traumas and build a relationship blessed by God.
We look forward to welcoming you.
Event: The Love Therapy Seminars
Day and time: Every Thursday at 8pm
Location: The Cathedral of Miracles, Rainbow Theatre, 232 Seven Sisters Road, Finsbury Park, London, N4 3NX (outside London via conference)
