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Who are you?
‘If you are unable to attract a partner, then look for what people want in a partner. See what others are doing and change yourself so that you become someone just like them whom people take interest in.’
Have you been given this kind of advice by a friend, co-worker or a family member? If you took this advice, you are probably very unhappy today, and perhaps on the brink of losing your own identity.
If you are no longer yourself, but have become someone like everybody else, you will see nothing different in your love life - only what the others see.
Consequently, you will not find that special someone God has prepared for you. Rather you will find someone who sees you as an easy catch, just like all the other partners they have been with before, someone they can play around with until they get tired, and then move on to someone else.
"That special someone God has prepared for
you will want you just the way you are..."
If someone takes interest in you because of who you pretend to be, as soon as you show your true self - and that will happen sooner or later - this person will not be happy. He or she will feel deceived and walk away from you.
Your identity is what makes you unique. That special someone God has prepared for you will want you just the way you are, especially because you are different. They will appreciate what you are because that’s what will complete them and make the two of you suitable for each other.
When someone wants you to become like someone else, flee from that person immediately, because they don’t want the real you. They want someone they cannot have, so they try to make you look and be like that person.
Of course that’s not to say that you shouldn’t improve yourself. In fact there are always areas of our lives that need improvement, as there are defects that need changing, not only for the good of our relationships, but also for the good of our life as a whole.
Without changing who you are or becoming what you are not, ask yourself if you would benefit from an improvement in your appearance, the way you dress, the way you speak, the people you are surrounded by, the way you express yourself, your interests, the way you deal with difficulties, etc.
Often people whose love is not reciprocated lose interest in themselves and become someone who is difficult for anyone to feel attracted to. Don’t fall into this trap, no matter how many failed relationships you have had, and no matter how long you’ve been on your own. God has someone who will want you just the way you are.
Be yourself, improve where you need improving, and find the love of your life.
‘If you are unable to attract a partner, then look for what people want in a partner. See what others are doing and change yourself so that you become someone just like them whom people take interest in.’